Category Archives: Planning

Welcome to the We Are Family magazine library, Planning section.

Planning is for anyone thinking about starting an ‘alternative’ family, whether it’s still just a thought, an idea to consider, or your decision has been made and it’s time to explore your options and take positive steps forward – this section is for you.

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Applying to foster: the process

Want to find out more about fostering? Here are the next steps. Call a foster agency and make an initial enquiry. They will invite you to an open evening to learn more. A social worker will come to your home for an initial visit to talk it through in more detail and do some checks…
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Becoming a foster carer, 11 myths demystified

There are still many misconceptions about who can foster. Here are the top 11. I can’t foster because… I’m too old. Your age is not a barrier to becoming a foster carer. I am single. Anyone can foster regardless of whether they have a partner or not. I’ve got pets. So long as your pet…
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The rewards of becoming a foster carer

Being a foster carer can be a challenging job, but the rewards are varied and quite personal. Some foster carers find it so fulfilling, they foster many children throughout a long fostering career. Here are some of the positive benefits of being a foster carer. Positively change a child’s life You’re providing a foster child…
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In-depth guide to foster caring

Are you interested in becoming a foster carer but don't know enough about it? Perhaps you assume your circumstances or expectations mean you wouldn't be accepted. Here, with help from Achieving for Children, we get all your questions answered. There are now 70,000 children in care. Many of these children are on the adoption register…
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Queer Journeys to Parenthood

Growing Families (formerly Families Through Surrogacy) are a not-for-profit organisation who work globally to promote safe and informed family building through surrogacy. They ran their first UK seminar back in 2014 and quickly gained momentum. Since then they have hosted 14 events in the UK and Ireland and many more abroad. The key to the…
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Getting fresh in the flesh: fresh sperm vs defrosted frozen sperm

Alice Ellerby and her lesbian partner want a family one day so they've started looking into their options. As an aerialist and performer Alice was inspired to create Mother Mother, a collaborative show about lesbians' experiences of becoming mothers. In part two of Alice's guest blog she gets a rare opportunity to see life being…
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Interview with Susan Golombok

Susan Golombok is director of the Centre for Family Research at the University of Cambridge. Her fascinating book, published in March this year, brings together over thirty years of research into new family forms – forms which include lesbian and gay-parented families, single mothers by choice, and families created through assisted reproduction techniques (ART). The…
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Calling two mummies

Mother Mother is an innovative performance project in development for 2016, exploring the experiences of lesbians who use donor conception to create their families. Incorporating circus, theatre, projected images and animation, it looks at parenthood outside ‘normal’ family structures, attitudes to assisted reproduction, gender identity and more. The company, a collaboration between lead artist and…
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LGBT adoption: jargon buster

Jargon buster Tummy mummy: an easy term instead of birth mother that young kids understand Forever family: a child’s adoptive family are known as their forever family to acknowledge the permanent bond between them Life story work: a story book with, where possible, photographs of each child’s journey from birth through foster care to their…
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The adoption process in 10 steps

Here’s a breakdown of the adoption process. This may vary depending on your agency but these are the likely steps involved.   Step 1: preliminary enquiry Make contact with a local adoption team through your council, a charity or other adoption organisations. They will ask you a few questions to establish whether you are eligible,…
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